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With the changing of times, we are getting more and more open and accepting our fellow human beings precisely on their personal qualities. It’s not any more a Hindu or a Muslim or a White or a Black so to say… well to some extent. 

Inter-religious and Inter-racial marriages are getting equally acceptable and common. However, to be a success, any marriage requires two people who are respecting, responsible, honest and sincere. When two people meet in matrimony, they should respect each other, especially so if it’s an inter-religion marriage. It is very important to remember that all the religions teach the same basic goodness.  

It is very unfortunate, that the religion has become a business and source of power for some and a reason for conflict among people of different beliefs. If we learn to respect others' religion and leave them alone with their preferences, this world will be a happier place.

Over the years, we have spent time or should I say wasted time in proving that a certain somebody’s religion is better. In the process, there are instances, when things have gotten very ugly. We actually do not attain anything by proving our religion better than the others. Do we ever create big fights over proving our spouse better than the others, or our children better than the others? Don’t we all know or believe that our children are the best yet we never try to prove it to others. I personally believe we only want to prove something, which we are not very sure of. If one is sure that his religion is better then there is no need for him to feel inferior about it. That’s the way religion should be we know our religion is better – that’s the reason we have adopted it. It is personal – to each its own.

Religion is a way of life. We by the virtue of being born in a certain religious backdrop learn to follow a way of praying or accepting God as Christ or Krishna and so forth. Thus following the teachings. I don’t see the teachings of Krishna any different than that of Christ. How does it matter then which religion is ancient? 

The second most important factor in an inter-religion marriage is the religion followed by the children. There is a constant hustle in the parents that the child follows his/her religion. Isn’t it more important that a child becomes a good human being? This can be taught to him by adopting the goodness of both the religions. Here, it’s very important for parents not to be selfish. We should focus on teaching the child good values which everyone would agree is the basis of every single religion. There have been instances, when adults abandon the religion given to them by their parents and adopt some other religion that they are convinced is better. I think we should let our children decide what religion they would like to adopt when they are capable of deciding for themselves.

It is very unfortunate, that the religion has become a business and source of power for some and a reason for conflict among people of different beliefs. It is sad but in the past 25 years of our marriage, most of our Hindu acquaintances have looked down upon Christianity and most of our Christian acquaintances have suggested ideas as to how I can convert my husband. 

Unperturbed, we both have learnt to respect each others' individuality, each others religious beliefs, faith and preferences, thereby making our inter-religion marriage a successful one and  this world a little more happier and a harmonious place to live.

True, If we learn to respect others religion and leave them alone with their preferences, this world will be a happier place.

Read the Sequel: More on Inter-Religion Marriage 
 
Read also:  Reflections 

20-Jul-2000
More by :  Meera Chowdhry
 
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Article Comment i am a hindu girl love with muslimboy.pls help me how to console my parents??? my parents will not allow me to convert..i need both my boy and my parents.pls help me.my id is shikha.k1990@gmail.com
shikha
09/17/2014
Article Comment i am a hindu girl love with muslimboy.pls help me how to console my parents??? my parents will not allow me to convert..i need both my boy and my parents.pls help me.my id is ampriya8@gmail.com
priyanka
05/07/2014
Article Comment Hi
I am a Hindu girl and I have a 8 yrs relationship with a Muslim guy. We plan on getting married and have told our parents so. Its been 1 year since we told them. They are against it and are making our lives a hell.
I am not willing to convert and my boyfriend supports it.
His parents are keeping and eye on me and seem to know what I am doing and on the other hand my parents are trying to create doubts in my head and taking me to astrologers. No one seems to understand us.
We are afraid that his parents might harm my family or me and might try to ruin our lives(they have told it in many indirect ways to my boyfriend). How do we handle this and make it a happy marriage.
Madhavi
03/20/2014
Article Comment Can anyone help me to convince her parents, i am muslim and she is hindu and her parents are against this relation and so she wants to leave me, please some one help me....
Ali
12/31/2013
Article Comment i am a hindu girl,age 21. I love with a muslim guy. Our relation starts in age of 17.i know very wel abt the guy. Our family don't know the relation.i know they didn't agree bec religion. Next april i am going to tel my relation, i am very afraid. I need my family and my lover.tel me some sugection plz
vidya
12/29/2013
Article Comment Well , as per my all collective knowledge & experience there are only 2 caste on this earth created by GOD one is MALE & other is FEMALE every thing else is a matter of upbringing cultures.
If you think above written word are just lecture then read about me...
My mother is brahman (Pathak) ,My father is muslim (multani shekh) ,My wife is Thakur (Rajput) ,My sister married in rathore family & I have seen /visited hundreds of temples ,gurudwaras & church all over India.
Truly Mera Bharat Mahan
Anwar Ahmed
11/21/2013
Article Comment Dear me,
our relationship is very truth and we wanna to marry each others..our parents strongly reject due to different religion..we want to marry soon..so please say me some suggestion.. my mail id is ariffa687@yahoo.com
Ariffa
09/07/2013
Article Comment DEAR MAM.....OUR RELATIONSHIP IS MORE THAN 5YEAR.3 YEAR BACK HER FAMILY MARRIED HER WITH ANOTHER GUY.BUT WITH IN MONTH THEY DECIDE TO SEPRATION.NOW WE WANT TO MARRY.BUT SHE IS CINFUSED.AND WORRY ABOUT HER FAMILY. PLZ PLZ PLZ SUJEST THE BEST SOON.I WANT TO MARRY ONLY WITH HER.PLZ
zuhaib
04/27/2013
Article Comment m a brahmin. n meh bf is muslim.his parents are not agreed .v tried a lot for our families to end evrything but v r helpless nw.plz help.let me knw wat should he do to convince his parents.bas humse alag nhi hona chahtei .plz help us and give advice
vibha
04/05/2013
Article Comment Ladki aksar jb uske ghr koi baat hoti hai to wo mujhe drop krne k liye kehti hai......main 5 saal se relationship me hoon...main Muslim or wo Hindu hai
Saif
04/03/2013
Article Comment Thank you Walter! I am proud to say that in our 37 years of marriage, we have only fought once for religion.

Thank you Swaminathan! It is true and I am an example. One has to practice what he preaches.

I have always felt humans (God's creation) to be more important than any other thing.

Meera.
happy-life
06/05/2012
Article Comment Very clear views..religion is the way of life..that is the most significant remark you have understood and made! Well done Meera!
G Swaminathan
06/04/2012
Article Comment Hi, i have never read a piece like this on true intermarriages have a lot of problem but love should cover all since you loved each other before religion if it was so then this world should be more divided than ever all the best and i look forward to more on this since am planning to get marriage soon. BRAVO.
Walter Bwire
06/02/2012
Article Comment Dear Madhu Sudhan:

You may write to me at meerachowdhry@boloji.net if you need to talk. Meera.
happy-life
02/08/2012
Article Comment Dear Mam
I want to do intercast marrige. my & her family not support to us...Can do help me ..........Plz
My contact number is 9024727782
Madhu Sudhan Jangid
02/07/2012
Article Comment Akansha sorry for a late reply...you marry not because ek dusre ki adat padh chuki hai but because you love each other. Love in the end is going to help fight and overcome not only the society but your own future life.

meera. good luck
Meera
11/21/2011
Article Comment m a brahmin. n meh bf is muslim.its almost 4-5yrs of our relationship.v tried a lot for our families to end evrything but v r helpless nw.plz help.let me knw wat shud v do if v can evn try to end dis relation let dis evn knw cz hum wo b krenge..bas humse alag nhi hua jaa rha..hume ek dusre ki aadat padh chuki hai.plllllllllll help ussss
akansha trivedi
10/01/2011
Article Comment When the above article was written, we had been married almost 25 years. I am posting this comment (for the benefit of our readers) on the eve of our wedding anniversary (September 25, 2010) when we have completed 35 years of our wedded life. Indeed we quarrel and fight a lot (it keeps us young and energized), but not on religion. Thanks darling for keeping the flame alive.
Rajender Krishan
09/24/2010
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