Society
A Tale of Two Female
Fetuses
and their Doctor Mom
by Prashant K. Nanda
Her doctor
husband forced Ritu Kumar, a physician herself, to go for a sex
determination test and her academician in-laws pushed her to abort the
two female fetuses inside her or at least kill one of them. But she
still went ahead and gave birth to twin girls.
That was two and a half years ago. Ritu (name changed) and the twins
were thrown out of their home in west Delhi. But the fight that began
with two unborn children is far from over.
"I am facing a lot of hardships. My husband has thrown me out of home.
But still I am proud of what I have done. I am proud to have saved my
daughters," said Ritu, who lives in the national capital.
Nearly one million female fetuses are aborted every year in India - a
country known for its male preference - which means over 2,700 girls die
every day before even seeing the light of day. But thanks to Ritu, at
least two girls have got a chance to live.
Ritu got married in 2004. Both she and her husband are doctors and her
in-laws are well educated.
"We came to know that I was carrying twin babies. Then my mother-in-law
started demanding sex determination. They got that done by force. Then
they started demanding that I get an MTP (medical termination of
pregnancy). They asked me many times to at least get one child killed in
uterus," Ritu, 33, told IANS.
Ritu alleges that her mother-in-law told her that "two daughters would
be a big burden on them".
She accuses her husband of verbally abusing her and claims she was
virtually put under house arrest when she decided to disobey their
diktat on the female fetuses.
Now she is living with her 72-year-old father, who is also a doctor,
along with her children. "I am living only because of my daughters,"
said Ritu, her eyes brimming with tears.
But she often feels scared.
"I am scared! They want to kill me. They have deployed detectives to
record my activities. But, for the sake of my children, I have not filed
a police case against my husband and my in-laws," she said.
"I have informed the Delhi Commission for Women (DCW) and taken legal
counseling from a high court lawyer. I have also availed myself of
counseling from the Navjyoti Counseling Centre of Kiran Bedi.
"But I have requested all of them not to initiate action against my
husband and in-laws. I want to give my husband another chance as my
children need their father," Kumar said in a choked voice.
Pragya Routray, a high court lawyer in Delhi, who has counseled Ritu and
her husband, said: "It's a serious case. Her husband can be charged with
forced sex selection, pressurizing her to go for female feticide and,
above all, domestic violence.
"But the problem is she wants to reconcile with her husband for the sake
of their kids. On the one hand she is scared of the man and on the other
she wants to give him another chance," Routray told IANS.
Bijayalaxmi Nanda, an activist working against female feticide who has
also been counseling Ritu, said like any other Indian woman she wants to
give her husband one more chance but a "reconciliation sounds very
unlikely".
"They don't trust each other. The man has been torturing her for so many
years and even threw her out of home. I think this should be the last
chance for the man. He may be in a noble profession (medical
practitioner) but he is not behaving like a good human being," said
Nanda, a professor at Miranda House college.
Ritu said she is worried about her children's future. "I am not working
anywhere, as I am not in a good psychological condition.
"I tried to shift out with my husband, but I started receiving
threatening calls that my daughters and I would be murdered if I did not
divorce my husband," she added.
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