Dec 01, 2023
Dec 01, 2023
by BS Murthy
Once when Roopa debunked the puranic tales of cock-pecked wives as perverse male stratagems to enslave women, Janaki was truly alarmed. “These tales of female fidelity have a purpose of their own,” said Janaki to Roopa. “Since nature made men promiscuous, it’s the female loyalty that holds the marriage in the long run, for the benefit of the family and the society as well. These tales have a moral for men as well for they underscore the fact that it’s the wife who sticks through thick and thin with their man and not the lascivious lasses with whom they come to stray.”
As Roopa remained unconvinced and minced no words about the fallacy of the proposition, Janaki realized that old wives tales were no longer a currency with the educated girls. So she thought it fit to reason it out with her unmarried daughters about the pitfalls of premarital sex and thus closeted with them one evening.
“I think it’s time I talk to you about the proclivities of youth,” Janaki began enigmatically.
“To be drawn to boys at your age is but natural and desirable even. It helps the healthy development of your sexuality. Infatuation is the narcotic of the nascent youth, and if only the dosage is right, it could bring in small pleasures that delight. On the other hand, a thoughtless overdose could cripple your womanliness forever.
While being friendly with the boys, beware of their attitudes and be aware about your vulnerabilities. They pursue for the final favour doggedly until they are dog-tired. Nature made them that way and for a purpose; female fulfillment is the purpose of male desire.
It’s left for you to draw your own premarital lines. Do not get into those situations that might let you part with that for which they court you so fervently. If only you interact with easy virtue, your date could doubt your ability to resist a future seducer. Thus, if you favour your lover in a hurry, you might end up losing him besides that by which men measure women. And that would be enough to put you in a doghouse for life.”
Janaki extracted a promise from Chandrika and Roopa that they wouldn't indulge in premarital sex.
An excerpt from the author’s Benign Flame: Saga of love
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