Oct 04, 2023
Oct 04, 2023
by Garima Gupta
Each and Every Parent goes through a period of tantrum handling. (In fact , my 20 month old daughter is lying on ground right besides my chair right now, throwing a tantrum, demanding that I hand the computer over to her immediately). Each and every child throws a tantrum once in a while. It's a natural way of communicating extreme feelings for kids, who have not developed adequate speech skills yet! However natural it might be, it still manages to throw parents out of gear, and the feelings range from desperation to ashamedness and anger. It's takes a big heart and some knowledge of tantrums to handle the situation correctly.
As any parent would vouch for, children throw tantrum when you most want them to be well behaved. In a shop grocery shopping, in a fine dining restaurant or when you have an important phone call to attend to. They instinctively seem to realize that mom/dad is not completely available to me at this point of time, and immediately demands that attention!! While shopping, kids often act up asking for one, or one hundred different candies or toys or so on. In fact, if observed carefully, we find that tantrums come mostly when the child is tired, exhausted , hungry , sleepy, bored, or even over-stimulated. It is just that these little adults are trying to exercise their power of choice, which they don't have. It is a frustrating , confusing world for them, a world where mom and dad impose their will on him all the time. He wants to be an unique individual in his own right, and the process is more difficult for him than it is for you. Be sympathetic.
Be sympathetic. Easier said than done, of course. However there are a few dos and don'ts that can help you sail through 'quietly' through this turbulent period :
Kids eventually grow out of tantrums, as they develop better strategies to get stuff out of their parents. (Yeah! That's true, it never stops!!) So just take it as another developmental milestone and do not attach extra importance to it.
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