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Going Beyond the Fireworks in Relationships
In my last article I had discussed the importance of approaching relationships in a systematic way. I had argued that very few proven or proactive methods, if at all, were being offered as benchmark training tools to help us in dealing with relationships. I attributed a haphazard approach coupled with new and growing challenges of a less constrained society as major contributing factors for a decline in successful* relationships.
I had then gone on to present a simple, yet powerful, trinity of factors due to Carl Rogers that have been shown, under a variety of relationship scenarios, to provide a basis of healthy and fulfilling relationships. However, there seems to be a missing link. An access to these principles and even a conscious effort at practicing them, often, does not automatically lead to their successful implementation. In other words, knowledge and practice does not seem enough to bring the professed benefits of these principles to fruition. To conduct an in-depth study of this issue, I will focus my attention on a particular type of relationship; one that brings spice to our life and makes our hearts pound - Romantic Relationships!
Why doesn't the dream-like state last forever? What brings about a change in our perception? To get some answers, we need to first look at the phrase "falling in love" more carefully. We are so accustomed to the use of this expression that we forget to stop and think of its meaning or significance. Are we truly "falling"? Is it indeed "love" we are talking about? As I will argue next it seems that the answer to both questions, in all likelihood, is "No".
For example, jealousy is a common problem in romantic relationships and one that unquestionably needs to be transcended by both parties in order for true love to manifest. This requires a deep understanding and commitment to their own, as well as their partners' growth so that they can provide a nurturing environment for helping each other (and not ignoring) in acknowledging, working-on, and outgrowing such limitations.
This, in my view, is certainly the single-most crucial link for relationships to work in sync. In such a growth-oriented relationship, tools, training and techniques (such as those presented in my earlier article) could be used meaningfully with a high assurance of success. Not only will the relationships will be far more fulfilling but it will help propel the spiritual progress of both parties at an accelerated pace. Such relationships can transport us to the realms of an experience that is truly divine - A close encounter of the third kind, where body, mind and the spirit are finally in an orgasmic agreement, YES! YES! YES!
Be My Friend ++
Let us walk together in a relationship
Let us swim together in a passionate interaction
Let us rise together in power, empowering each other.
Let us soar together in love, nourishing each other's body, mind and spirit.
Let us traverse the cosmos devoid of all coverings,
Let us witness the past, present and future,
Let us unite in an effulgent nectar of bliss
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