A man is known by the company he keeps they say. If it is so, then everyone is bound to have their baggage of loneliness with them as companions. Loneliness is not something that doesn't exist at all with any human being on earth. Every human being feels lonely in his life at some point or the other. Its but natural to have such feelings, because that's what that makes us all human and that is why we are as we are.

If we shed some light on why we feel aloof or lonely at times, we would be very much astonished or even probably surprised by the results. We ourselves are responsible for our self-defined gloominess. This is because at times we really feel that we are uncared for or feel someone doesn't understand us.

Sometimes we over analyze real life situations and have this growing sense of self pity inside us. This feeling always gives us thoughts which picturise us always receiving the wrong end of the stick in life. The truth might not always be true if we touch our heart and see. Its just that our expectations in life and from people around us or circumstances that we are facing, have got the better of us. Expectation is the silent killer which murders millions of mushy and time tested relationships. If there would have been no expectations from anyone, the world would have been a much better place to be. If there would have been no expectations, not many people would have had an aching heart and a life long grouse against their would have been better halves. If it wouldn't have been for unreasonable expectations not many couples would have divorced each other.

How to come out of expectations then? Good question. The answer is when you give something, don't expect anything in return. When our mother gave birth to us, she never expected that we will give birth to her. She just fulfilled her desire to raise a family and live for them. In the same way, let our actions make us live for our self and let not expectation screw up the major portion of your lives. Let us have the freedom and will power to express our love, affection and longingness for people whenever we feel. Let us not restrict our freedom of expression just because he or she is not responding the way we want them to.

Well all in all a little bit of loneliness is good for a self analysis to keep a check over your actions. Introspection always make you communicate with the innerself. But too much of introspection can make u scale the altitude of self pity. So show restrain at the right time.


More by :  Deepak Chandrasekaran

Top | Individuality

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Comment y not to have expectation?our mothers gave us birth den,it was her desire to do so .but now if we do something for any 1 wat she or he may expect from us,den y cant i have d same feeling.Im not god n a very big heart to allow every other person to come and cut a piece out of it.
this would make me a pessimistic person in future.den il not do anything for any other person n then will not expect too

08-Nov-2011 13:16 PM

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