Oct 30, 2025
Oct 30, 2025
 		When Mumbai, India's film and business capital, shut down all its 'dance  		bars', there was much debate on the merits and demerits of the decision.  		In Nepal, another Asian location infamous for its dance bars, women's  		rights activists are fighting for the rights of the dancers.
"Eventually,  		we would like that (the shutting down of these bars) to happen here (in  		Kathmandu) too, but first we need a massive degree of awareness,  		networking and coordination," says Arpana Shrestha, a Project Officer  		with Maiti Nepal, a prominent NGO. Maiti works to spread awareness among  		'bar girls' - women employed in the small and medium-sized bars and  		restaurants in Nepal, many of which have the unsavory reputation of  		having sex on the menu as well.
Broadly speaking, there are three kinds of small and medium restaurants  		in Kathmandu: the actual restaurants, cabin restaurants and dance bars.
The cabin restaurants are the most dangerous for women employees, says  		Shrestha. When a customer walks into a dimly-lit hall partitioned into  		tiny cubicles and calls for a waitress, the worst form of sexual  		exploitation is on the cards. The cabin restaurants are often raided by  		police, who take away customers and waitresses in various degrees of  		undress.
"It is the cabin restaurants that teenagers wanting their first sexual  		experiences turn to," says Shrestha. "It is also the place where  		inexperienced teens and minor girls go looking for jobs."
Besides poverty and unemployment, since 1996, Nepal has been racked by  		an armed conflict between Maoist insurgents and the government. Over  		12,000 people have died, and tens of thousands have been displaced,  		heading towards Kathmandu. "The girls coming from the rural districts  		are not educated and have no job skills," says Shrestha. "The cabin  		restaurant is the only place that will employ them. And so they go  		there."
After an inexperienced girl has done a stint in a cabin restaurant and  		become wise to the ways of the world, she moves on to the dance bars.  		From a waitress, she graduates to a dancer, who, in between dance  		numbers, has to come and sit at the client's table for a consideration.  		There could be proposals for more. While some bars let her do what she  		wants, some pressure her to oblige.
Sonam Rai came to Kathmandu nearly 10 years ago from the Terai plains in  		the south. Nineteen at that time, she was an orphan living with her  		uncle. "He made my life miserable," she says with an angry toss of her  		head. "I worked in his field all day long and at night, I had to sleep  		in the cowshed." A friend of hers got her a couple of jobs as a domestic  		help. But Rai quit because of sexual harassment by her employers and  		began working as a waitress in a dance bar. But here, she was at the  		beck and call of the dancers who insulted her. "So I decided to become a  		dancer. It's true I have to wear skimpy clothes, but at least I am not  		bossed around anymore."
Dipa Tamang, 26, is a dancer with the Galaxy Dance and Shower Bar in the  		busy Sundhara area of Kathmandu, a downmarket commercial road near the  		bus stations. Although an accomplished dancer, Tamang will not find work  		with a dance troupe because her face was badly scarred in an accident.  		With a four-year-old child to care for, deserted by her husband, and  		educated only up to Class 7, the dim light of the dance bar and the  		garish makeup she uses to hide her scars are her only haven.
According to Yogendra Chaulagain, secretary of Nepal Restaurant  		Entrepreneurs' Association (NREA), there are around 30,000 women working  		in the capital's restaurants. Most of them are from the rural areas and  		have no education or skills. Domestic violence, desertion by husband,  		feckless boyfriends who leave them pregnant, the insurgency and grinding  		poverty force them into economic and sexual exploitation.
Chaulagain says NREA did a rough survey about three months ago and  		estimates that more than 75 per cent of the women working in cabin  		restaurants in the valley are between 18-25. Shrestha, however, has  		entirely different figures. She estimates that over 50 per cent of these  		women are actually minors - some as young as 10. What makes the  		situation so nightmarish - and the figures impossible to corroborate -  		is that there is no certified data. Many of the fly-by-night restaurants  		are not even  registered.
"In fact, according to the law, cabin and dance restaurants are not  		allowed. But with small restaurants mushrooming, the competition is so  		cut-throat that the owners have to devise something extra to keep the  		clients coming. So they think of dance bars and shower bars. They even  		advertise that on signboards. But the government has not taken any  		serious note of this," says Shrestha.
A shower bar includes a round bathtub-like structure, where dancers flit  		in and out while the showers spray water on scantily clad bodies. "We do  		have hot water in winter," says Tamang. "But at times we catch a cold.  		We have to learn to step in and step out immediately."
The employment conditions vary from bar to bar. The salaries range from  		NRs2,000 to 6,000 per month (1US$-70.9 Nepali Rupees), but the real  		money is in the tips a girl can get. There is no weekly off or annual  		leave. "We stay open only from 6 pm to 10 pm," says the management of X  		Bar, one of the upmarket dance bars in the city, thronged by young men  		on bikes. "It's a part-time job, and so, there is no weekly off. But if  		a dancer falls ill, we pay for the treatment."
A June 2005 survey on the migration of women in Nepal carried out by  		Save the Children, USA found a high level of insecurity among the  		dancers. The report - titled 'The Movement of Women' - says, "A Gurung  		woman from Ramechhap (a district east of Kathmandu)...worried that as  		she was getting older, she might get fired, since the bar preferred  		young dancers...Work at a dance bar is never permanent employment and a  		number of women said contracts and job appointment letters would help  		them, presumably through legitimacy."
Shyam Sundar Shrestha, joint secretary at the Ministry of Women,  		Children and Social Welfare, admits dance and cabin restaurants are a  		serious concern. "The government is taking it seriously," he says. "We  		have formed a task force comprising members from the Chief District  		Officer's office and NGOs to do a survey and come up with  		recommendations. Unfortunately, we don't have the means right now to  		rehabilitate the dance bar girls but we are working with NGOs like Maiti,  		which have rehabilitation centres."
In 2003, a 15-member team coordinated by Maiti Nepal came up with  		several recommendations. All small and medium restaurants must register  		with the government, cabins must be abolished and girls shouldn't be  		forced to drink with the customers.
Although the government has not been able to implement any of these  		recommendations, Arpana Shrestha is still hopeful. "We are working on a  		code of conduct for such restaurant owners. Once it is ready, we will go  		to the government again," she says. "At present, we are visiting the  		restaurants, identifying a leader among the girls and giving her an  		orientation about trafficking. So far, we have covered 450 dance  		cabins."
Shutting down the restaurants is not the answer, she says. "We have to  		provide these bainis (sisters) with life skills so that they have  		an option. Otherwise, we will probably push them into a worse fate."  
02-Oct-2005
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